Chivalry

Sometimes I get really annoyed with girls. Girls who manipulate guys. Stupid guys. These girls know fine well that these boys will do anything and everything for them, but these girls will not be clear about where their friendship/relationship stands. And then, the girl will use and abuse the stupid guy till she finds a boyfriend and then, the stupid guy will be lonely again. Wake up stupid guys!!

On the other hand, I also get annoyed with guys. Non-committal guys. Guys who will date stupid girls who fall for their "I will always love you" line, but deep down inside, this guy knows fine well, he could never be with this stupid girl forever, but says these stupid corny crap cos stupid girls will fall for it, but runs at the sound of commitment. Wake up stupid girls!!

I like to give the "I am a manhater, not a maneater" vibe...but in fact, I like guys. Hanging out with guys is more fun than girls. And then, I also think guys like hanging out with me too......BUT...yep, there's a BIG but...

I have realised, in my story, that there are some guys who like to hang out with me cos they have a hidden agenda!!! Yes, they do. At first, they will be very nice and do all these nice things for you.

But when I make it LOUD & CLEAR (which is usually very blunt - I am what the Malaysians call "perasan"), e.g. "I ONLY like you as a friend; I will never ever fancy you...", there are 2 ways the guy reacts.

1. Still treat you as nice - either in hope, they will change your heart and win you over (it's a challenge) or that they are genuinely a nice guy (rare!)

2. Stop doing nice things and treat you like crap (very common - avoid these guys at all costs!)


I encounter a lot of the number 2's (PUN INTENDED!)

Anyway, I was reminded the other day of the word - chivalry - defined as respectful attention especially towards women

And guess what??? Since I started travelling in mid-July, I have met many new and colourful characters and then, I have met some chivalrous guys!!!

Obviously, I have met some nasty guys...nasty, nasty (I know who they are!)...but the chivalrous guys...wow...impressive!

I present to you the single guys who have made "The Chivalrous" list :-

Mr A
- The guy who sent me a facebook message, out of the blue, and described me as "stunning" even though when we spent time together, I had this ugly swollen eye thing going on and no make-up and geeky glasses look!!
- Chivalrous because he sees the beauty within

Mr B
- The guy who doesn't "allow" me to walk home by myself after a night out even though I live in the city centre and insists on driving me home
- Chivalrous because of his caring nature

Mr C
- The guy who initiates saying grace every time we eat together
- Chivalrous because he respects God
(- He also helped me when I was stuck in this social dilemma...but that's another story)

Mr D
- The guy who had a morning coffee waiting for me even though I already told him that I was gonna be late meeting him AND he opened car doors (we only got introduced the day before)
- Chivalrous because of his gentlemanly nature

Mr E
- The guy who has offered me unlimited Diet Coke (my favourite soft drink...shh!! bad for your teeth!!)
- Chivalrous because of his generosity


AND the non-single chivalrous guys :-

Mr F
- The guy who took care of everything AND carried my luggage when we went on a 24-hour trip together
- Chivalrous because of caring and gentlemanly nature

Mr G
- The guy who came over to help me move into my new room AND re-arranged furniture AND changed lightbulbs for me
- Chivalrous because of his helpful nature



In conclusion : Chivalry FTW!!!