The Honeymoon Stage

I have made a number of friends in Sydney and surprisingly, the majority of them are single.

And if you have been a faithful fan of my 6-year-old blogs, you will know that one of the topics I love to write and talk about is DATING.

My Sydney friends have given me a new name - Love Guru.

I have given guys and girls practical advice about meeting guys/girls and dating guys/girls.

(I will provide links to these blog posts later once I have sorted it out - please be patient with me.)

Anyway, ever since I started dating, these friends have noticed the changes in my appearance. Instead of looking my usual glam self, I have become rather scruffy i.e. no make-up and wearing old rags plus wrinkly forehead (due to Botox wearing off...)

I have confidently shared to them that this is on purpose. After sharing with them, they named me Love Guru. I will now share with you.

Here is the reason why you can afford to look scruffy at the START of a relationship.

Relationships go through many stages.

The initial stage is the "Honeymoon stage" where every day is a happy, smiley, sunny day because you know that you have acquired a newfound other half.

You no longer have to face the dreadful mornings of waking up to go to work or face studies feeling unwanted and unloved because you have acquired a newfound other half.

If you see a couple showing PDA (public displays of affection) or if you hear a love song, you no longer have to pine for someone because you have acquired a newfound other half.

Before you sleep at night, take a look out the window. Because let me tell you something - the moon and the stars that you see are the same moon and stars your newfound other half sees. You can sleep with a silly smile on your face because you have acquired a newfound other half.

Are you with me so far?

So in this Honeymoon period, while your other half is blinded with love / sun / clouds / moon / stars, use this opportunity to show your other half the downgraded version of you.

Girls, this means : wear less make-up or none, if you dare! Dress in your casual wear. Don't wear heels. Wear your glasses instread of contact lenses. Relax your diet and put on a couple of pounds.

Guys, this means : use less hairgel, grow some stubble and workout less.

Girls & Guys - this does NOT mean : Don't shower and stink of B.O. Please continue to brush your teeth and floss!!

Your other half will react in one of two ways :-

1. No change - This is GOOD NEWS. This means that they are so blinded in love with you that no matter what you look like downgraded, they still love you. It means that in the future, when you will eventually downgrade (i.e. cannot maintain your current youthful looks), they will still accept and love you because they have seen it before and won't be shocked when you suddenly have a bad hair/face/body day.

2. Complain - This is also GOOD NEWS. This means that they are superficially in love with you and that they will not accept the downgraded version of you. This relationship will probably end as soon as you have a bad hair/face/body day. Therefore, get rid of them before they get rid of you! You are better off without someone who gives superficial loving.


You don't believe my theory?? Take a look around today.

I bet you will see a hotty with a not-so-hotty - either :-

a) A good-looking hunky guy cuddling up to a short, fat and not-so-good-looking girl

or

b) A spotty, nerdy, lanky guy cuddling up to a hot ass girl

Once upon a time, they were both hotties...but at the Honeymoon period, one of them became not-so-hotty but because the other hotty half was so blinded by love, it did not matter. And they both lived happily ever after. The End.

In A Relationship

After the traumatic break-up of my previous high-profile relationship (you know the one where I was engaged but didn't get married), I knew it was never going to be easy to enter another relationship.

I have noticed that I have behaved differently in this newfound relationship.

Every relationship is different and I am not comparing them. I am just comparing the way I have changed.

1. I have become more private. Instead of announcing the relationship in my usual loud-and-proud manner, i.e. via blog and facebook, I have quietly and subtly declared it slowly. There are no photos of us plastered all over any social networking site. I didn't accept his relationship request on facebook immediately. Maybe I am scared of another failed public relationship?

2. I have become quite insecure. According to him, I constantly ask for his reassurance - "Do you love me?" "Am I pretty?" I mean, seriously, WTF is that? Maybe I am scared he will leave me too?

3. I haven't named our kids yet!!! HAHA!!! Maybe I am just taking it easy in this relationship?


Anyway, I haven't analysed it enough so I am not really sure what it means...

All I know is that I feel extremely blessed and loved and there have not been any crazy dramas yet. Maybe he will tame me, the self-proclaimed drama queen...

Galbi Tang

Last week, my friends and I were at the beach when this European guy approached my girl friend Miss JJ. He was carrying a bottle of beer and asking bizarro questions. I have learnt from previous experience to ignore and walk on when strange men approach me.

Miss JJ is a nice girl and too polite to tell strangers to get lost. She even gave him her REAL name!!! I just didn't like this dude because he was clearly alcohol-intoxicated and the scary part was when he followed us...

I gave her some wise words later - "Miss JJ, NEVER ever give strangers your REAL name. Always have a fake name ready!"

My sister, Sista 4, also agreed and we shared our fake names. Sista 4 usually goes by the name Sharon. She also has a fake Chinese name - Ga Ling!

I usually use the name Sarah. Plain and simple.

However, after a silly night out, we decided to change our fake names.

Miss JJ became Fergalicious Bring It Take It Bimbimbap Chan.
Sista 4 became Bimbim Bap.

Ridiculously FAKE! Anyone can spot that these names are FAKE a mile away!!!

I, on the other hand, choose a more discreet and believeable name - Galbi Tang.

Galbi Tang is actually Korean beef soup!!! LOL!

Well, a couple of mornings ago, I was innocently walking to work, slurping on my freshly-made smoothie. I walked into the building and pressed for the lift when this dude started talking to me.

Dude : Hi, is there a coffee shop near here?
Me : Oh I dunno. I'm new here.
Dude : Hey, is that a Cantonese accent I hear? (wtf is a Cantonese accent??!!)
Me : Erm, no. I'm Scottish.
Dude : Oh yes, I can hear it now...

(Lift arrives but the Dude keeps talking...)

Dude : But you look Cantonese... (okay, I'm Chinese and EVEN I cannot tell whether Asian people are from China or Hong Kong or Malaysia or Singapore or Japan or other Asian race so how can this Caucasian dude know?)
Me : Erm...well...my parents are from Hong Kong...
Dude : HONG KONG? Wow! I'm planning to go there next year and I'm also taking Cantonese lessons...Ngor jong yee heung gong...(= I like Hong Kong)

(I press lift again)

Me : Oh yeah, that's good...
Dude : Hey listen, why don't we get together some time and we can discuss Hong Kong together? I'll give you my business card. I'm Dude and what's your name again?
Me : Sexytooth (DOH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He caught me off guard and I gave him my REAL name!!)
Dude : Do you work here?
Me : Yes...(DOH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm usually good at lying...what happened???!!) Do you work here?
Dude : No I don't.

He hands me his business card. We say our goodbyes. And then guess what? He walks out the building....

Yes, the stalker Dude followed me into my work building after spying me on the streets!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Stalker alert!!

His business card claims he's a doctor and he owns some medical clinic...and he has bad teeth btw.

I hope he doesn't come looking for me. I feel so dumb for giving him my real name. It was an opportunity for me to use my fake name Galbi Tang but I wasted it. LOL.

Timing Is A Bitch!

Timing is a bitch!

Why?

I was bumming around in Sydney on my lonesome...eating out alone...seeing sights alone...taking photos alone...(when my friends were working or studying). Then I got a job - wahey! I started work on 9th December 2009...and guess what? My sister, Sista 4, arrived in Sydney the next day! She bummed around in my flat or did things on her lonesome when I was at work. Timing is a bitch! #1

I had a week off work for Christmas and New Year, so we were able to spend some time together visiting New Zealand.

And then my Norwegian friend, Mr Norway, arrived in Sydney to pay me a visit. He arrived on the first day I started back at work after the holidays. Timing is a bitch! #2

Good thing is, Sista 4 & Mr Norway had each other to sightsee with.

But this is taking the mickey...I just found out that I am finishing up work next week instead of mid-February because the dentist I am covering for, is feeling better after heart surgery...

Sista 4 leaves on the 20th January. I finish work on the 21st January. Mr Norway leaves on the 23rd January. Timing is a bitch! #3

This one is the biggie... My UK dental registration payment was due on 31st December 2009. My dad only showed my sister, Sista 2, the letter on the 29th December. She tried to contact me but I had just changed my phone number PLUS there was no internet access in New Zealand (we were up north) and some miscommunication later, the payment was not made. I found out on 2nd January 2010. I am now no longer eligible to work in the UK unless I pay triple the fee PLUS get a health medical examination PLUS some character references PLUS lots of paperwork. Timing is a bitch! #4

Happy New Year

Oh dear! I have lost my blogging mojo...NOT!!

I have just been mega-busy and here is an update of my life for the last couple of months when I was MIA from my blog.

I started a new job, my sister arrived in Oz to spend 2 long months with me and I picked up a boyfriend ALL at the same time. Trying to find a happy balance has proven difficult and I have been extremely exhausted and my insomniac-days have disappeared and sometimes, I even have mid-afternoon naps! *shock horror!*

Working is boring ya-dee-ya-dee-ya but it's good for the money and by the beginning of February, I will once again be unemployed and have abundance of freedom, but by then, my sister will have left Oz!

My sister arrived and brought lotsa UK goodies for me. Friends and family had passed gifts to me and I felt so loved. Spending good old quality time with my sister has been good - it mostly consists of eating out.

We have also done some travelling together - to Melbourne and to Auckland, New Zealand. We are also heading to Gold Coast together. Yep, all this from MY rapidly depleting bank balance!!

And the boy...I have been surprisingly private about him...but don't worry, I am just saving up all the juicy stuff so I can publicly blog about him. He doesn't know my blog address and I think I will keep it that way for a long time.

He doesn't need to know what I really think about other guys...LOL...

I am extremely happy and I walk around with a big smile on my face. It's one of those long distance relationships - we are over 9 hours drive away but only 1.5 hours flight away...

But I will be honest, I enjoyed my single life - the freedom of being single and free to mingle. I will elaborate and write more in-depth stuff later.

Happy 2010 and enjoy all the blessings.

xoxo